“I stand here, I am Reverend—ordained, yes Lord—Reverend Derek Anthony Terry, and I am a black gay man who ministers,” is how Rev. Derek Terry came out to many of his relatives, friends, and members of his congregation earlier this year. It’s also how he told the world when his coming-out sermon aired last weekend on OWN’s self-help series Iyanla Fix My Life, as the climax of Rev. Terry’s three-episode arc.

“Sometimes I feel like I’m going to die alone with 13 cats and a room full of shoes,” said RJ, a 23-year-old resident of Salt Lake City who is “obsessed with the look, taste, smell, and feel of men’s sneakers.” His extreme frustration with finding a suitable mate was chronicled in last night’s True Life: My Fetish Is Ruining My Life. There were also multiple scenes of sneaker play, which is not something you see on TV everyday (or ever for that matter). Progress.