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On last night’s episode of Keeping Up With the Kardashians—Part 2 of the “About Bruce” episodes, which concern the family’s reaction to Bruce Jenner’s transition—Kourtney Kardashian voiced apparent discomfort about discussing said transition in front of her 5-year-old son, Mason.

In an accompanying interview, which seemed intended to clarify Kourtney’s position but made it more convoluted, she said:

We are waiting to see what Bruce does before we tell Mason. I definitely don’t want him to find out, y’know, through someone at school or something like that. I want him to find out through us. And I think just it’s such a great lesson to, y’know, teach him not to judge people. It’s a great life lesson that, y’know, I think I have to make it the most positive that I can.

Mason’s father, Scott Disick, also appeared in the scene. In his interview, he said:

Kourtney and I have definitely talked about how we’re gonna explain this to Mason, and it’s only a positive for my son and my daughter to know all these different things that go on in this world. You can do whatever you want, as long as you become happy with yourself. That’s all that really matters, and like I said, you only really get one chance at this life so whatever you gotta do to be happy, you gotta do it.

The two “About Bruce” episodes have been very deliberate in allowing Jenner’s family the space to process and accept his transition (he’s still using male pronouns, as far as we know, as of now). They’ve been engaging and fairly moving, as reality TV goes. There’s an uncharacteristically gentle guiding hand at work.

The scene above made me wonder, though, exactly what the point is when people put off telling their kids about the identities of LGBT people they know. (Believe me, I’ve been there—I’ve never officially come out to my nephew and nieces.) It always seems rooted in fear—of the person, of confusing the child (as though childhood isn’t a series of near-constant confusions), of implying to the child it’s OK to be whatever way the person whose identity you’re hiding is. I can’t really think of a use for withholding said information (especially when your family is so public, and especially when you don’t want your fully conscious son to find out through channels stemming from gossip), but I’m no parent. And at least Kourtney and Scott can voice a philosophy that is empathetic and prosocial.

Kim, by the way, has come off as the most accepting of Jenner and the least stressed about the situation. Never liked her more.